Now I still have 14 hours to go, hopefully I can hang in there and get through it and update my review. This book is a must-read for anyone looking to gain more confidence and assertiveness in their personal and professional lives. I read the book about Josie first and loved the snippets of time that Jenna was in the scene and getting to know her personality. I have the right to offer anything to anyone, any number of times (and they have the right to say no).

Not only did it have a lot of wisdom, but it also includes many action steps for how to apply its wisdom in every day life. There is a kissing scene that gets a little spicy but not handsy and nothing further than the kisses. If you would like to share this book with another person, please purchase an additional copy for each recipient.By completing your purchase, you agree to Audible's Conditions of Use and authorise Audible to charge your designated card or any other card on file. Recording of this publication is strictly prohibited and any storage of this document is not allowed unless with written permission from the publisher. As a self-help tool, an assertiveness workbook can help you learn this important skill, practice in a theoretical setting and then apply what you have learned to the real world. Politeness and diplomacy are responsible for more suffering and death than all the crimes of passion in history. Aziz Gazipura takes us on a journey of understanding and overcoming what he refers to as the "Nice Guy Syndrome".

I have the right to choose how much I want to see a friend or someone I’m dating, and end the relationship if it does not feel desirable to me. My interpretation of 'less nice' being more assertive and clear about what you do and don't want (or agree with), and being able to communicate that even if you feel uncomfortable about it in the beginning. As Aiden and Jenna spend more time together, she starts to develop feelings and worries that, once again, she is making the same mistake as in past relationships. It comes completely out of left field, again, with a barely established friendship as their only “relationship” foundation.

In conclusion, Not Nice acts as a categorical guide for moving away from the 'Nice Guy Syndrome' towards a more assertive and authentic self. I find a mysterious fifty-dollar bill with a handwritten note on it that was donated to my family’s pumpkin patch by accident. This is one of the few books that I have read that I say “that’s me” or “I do that” throughout, so to change that is fantastic. I will be sharing it with several people I know who are too nice, and I know it will change their lives.

i felt seen and heard in ways i didn't think were possible, especially from a self-help non-fiction book. You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there’s still going to be someone who hates peaches. Concepts such as "embracing your shadow," "being selfish," and "finding comfort in discomfort" really had a big impact on me. He equips us with strategies on how to silence our inner critic and build a stronger, more confident self-image. Nice guys" are highly inhibited - they need to start acting and speaking BEFORE they think; they are way too much in their heads, which makes it difficult for others to connect to them.

At this point, any new pain or discomfort I feel, the first question I ask myself is, “what could be upsetting me in my life right now? Not Nice" is a powerful and thought-provoking book that challenges readers to break out of their comfort zones and start standing up for themselves. Im four hours into this book and he’s still raving about how great the book is and how life changing it is but yet no instructions, guidance, or examples of any kind on actually what to do or how to change it. Relationships are hard, but when you’re with someone who’s emotionally unavailable, they can be draining.

To ensure all information is accurate and of value to you, we’ve designed a production system and a content review process that keeps this content close to the source and as factual as possible. While it's important to not live a life that is filled with doing things other people want you to do and obviously people need boundaries, but people being generous to others and altruistic is sort of what differentiates good people from bad people. But if you're willing to go through the discomfort, this book will absolutely change your life forever. Aziz uses engaging stories, humor, and disarming vulnerability to cut through the nice conditioning and liberate the boldest, expressive, authentic version of you. It offers practical advice on how to be assertive and authentic while still being kind and respectful towards others.There’s a solid takeaway here for people who take on too much responsibility for the feelings of others, but I wonder if the advice within is really all that healthy.